Anxiety

When I met my husband, he was struggling with anxiety. He has struggled his whole life with anxiety. I have had my own selective mutisms as well, but his struggle was more intense.  Now, our eldest is still exhibiting disordered anxiety, and it makes me so thankful that we homeschool.

Today we have watched lots of Liberty’s Kids and Wild Kratts.

I have definitely won the battle over what we watch, it must all be clean and wholesome and beneficial, he hasn’t even asked to watch Henry Danger. ūüôā

THEY have definitely won the battle over yes/no screen time. Very much yes.  haha

So it’s a draw.

(5 hrs)

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While I’ve Been Gone

It’s been extremely challenging. ¬†In the stress and confusion of being out of our house for a month while remodeling and being under the strong influence of others, I temporarily lost my way.

But after reading the words “free choice” over and over in science-based parenting articles, I’m back. And as much as I have wanted to fight it, my children want to explore organized religion and Christian schooling. So badly that the oldest literally has invasive anxious thoughts about killing me.

So can you unschool your children when they want to go to school? We’ll see! Of course, I mean, it’s just been a while to convince me.

8 is working on a piano composition to the theme song of The Loud House, a Nickelodeon show.

And the plan is for us to go to church tonight.

He cared for the pets and tried to start a fire. (In the cental boiler–it’s ok)

Caring for baby chicks, eggs, etc.

Also piano lesson today.

(5 hrs)

Battleship

We went to tour the USS Alabama battleship in Mobile, AL.  The boys LOOOOOOVED it. After we left, which was way too soon for their liking, but Granny was developing a cold and it was quite windy and I was carrying the baby the whole time, going through the little passageways and up and down flights of stairs and was growing weary, SORRY boys!!!!, they had me read the statistics and tour information three times while they listened with rapt attention!!!

Could there be such a thing as battleship schooling??  haha

While we were there, we had to follow signs so it was good number practice for the four year old.

They learned about the difference between knots and miles per hour, tons and pounds, so metric and standard measuring systems. They learned about World War Two. They learned about horse power and range. So there is math, history and physics right there.

 

 

 

 

Leaning into Trust

So I have not been doing so well with my unschooling practice.¬† Sure, we’re on the beach now and I promised not to push schoolwork (Khan Academy and worksheet doing), but my need to control has been back for sure.

Expectedly because I am with an overbearing presence from my childhood. Strangely, or maybe I should have expected it, from reading a compendium of natural healing.

The good from my reading is an understanding of temper tantrums I’ve never had before. The concept is that we heal from the inside out. It helped me understand the eruption of pure, seemingly negative emotions that children have as a type of soul-cleansing experience.¬† Really helped me to accept and be at peace with it, feeling like it is not wrong.

Anyway,

Did some inner work last night and it helped me wake up with a new outlook. What kind of work, you ask? Well, for inspo I turned first to an understanding of my children and myself, I looked up traits for our sun signs and cusps and just soaked in our strengths, what I could work on personally (balance and social skills, it said.). Then, I was ready to hear some more from Sandra Dodd.

I have been controlling food pretty strong. Yesterday, I felt very righteous about limiting TV to one show a day. There may have been an improvement in their attitudes. I don’t know. I still think that¬†there is wisdom in the premise that children will rebel if you don’t let them try things. Try to self-regulate under your watchful guidance.

Preparing the environment, giving advice,¬†loving guidance. It’s the extent of my parental role. Giving unconditional love and acceptance. Being their person they can always turn to. I can’t skip past¬†the painful experiences they may have to learn as much as I want to by dogged, severe teaching. If they don’t understand truly why to do this or that, it is empty. It isn’t learning, it is blind obedience which will end when my back is turned. I am coming to believe it is more loving to allow them to learn while I’m there¬†.

Today so far:

We cooked fried bologna and made chocolate milk. Freddie then wrote down the recipe. (ELA, Science, Home Ec)

We have watched SpongeBob and Scooby Doo and Looney Toons.

He learned how to keep the handle turned away from anyone who should come to the stove, how to regulate heat so it doesn’t burn, how to turn food over to ensure even browning, how to mix substances to make a mixture (with milk and chocolate syrup). LIFE SKILLS.

Science Center

Today we went to the city with my mom and grandma. We started out early; I drug everyone out of bed. We met at a gas station and mom bought chips for the kids. We traveled down the road a bit and ate at Cracker Barrel. Mom bought toys for the kids: walkie talkies for the boys, a doll hairdressing set, and a stuffed puppy for the baby. At the Science Center, the first thing we did was a gravity exhibit where the kids had to turn a human hamster wheel to send a ball up a huge marble run.

Next we arrived for a “Dino Chat” and talked with a dinosaur expert about fossils, prehistoric eras, evolution, relation of birds to dinosaurs, DNA, genetic code, cloning, archaeology, skeletal structure common to all Animalia, prehistoric animals commonly mistaken for dinosaurs, ie. pteranodon. They had a space where we dug for fossils.

We went to a tornado exhibit and an earthquake one, saw beautiful geodes and fossils preserved in amber.

Then we went to the math exhibit, the main reason for our trip. There were too many interactive games to count, one with a simulated arm to practice working in space, an elaborate music machine that let you hear the difference in quarter beats, sixteenth notes, etc on trumpets, snares, cymbals, synthesizers, all playing together. Video games, snowboarding, a rock wall, too much to even take in at once. Mom bought us a family pass so we are definitely going back.

THEN we went to see the documentary “Mysteries of China” at the OMNIMAX.